If you are a dedicated student, like yours truly, (haha no i’m just kidding) you know that there are decisions to be made at where you stand with the world.
Now, that I am advancing into professional or graduate school, I am realizing that I really cannot have everything. Has any of you heard the saying, “In college you have to pick two of the three: Studies, Sleep/Rest, or Social Life? ’cause you can’t have them all.”
Well, looking back, sophomore year was definitely my craziest college year ever. I “tried” to juggle all three choices, but in reality I had chosen Studies and Social Life until my body threw the white towel. That’s when I shifted my choices to Rest and Social Life, I know, not the wisest decision. But at that time, that was the “cool” thing to do. Go out and have fun!
Now that I’m finishing, my mentality is somewhere else, it has a vision. It has future goals. Therefore, I have chosen Studies and Rest/Sleep. In reality, having a social life is great but is definitely time consuming. Therefore, I deleted my facebook, twitter, and instagram! I now have a lot more time to focus on my classes and on myself. I get my sufficient hours of sleep and even have thrown working out in my schedule. I work out three times a week for about an hour, sleep about seven hours a day, in school about four hours a day plus the extra 4-5 hours I spend outside of class doing homework, and finally I work 14 hours per week. Sounds like a busy life doesn’t it? Well it is.
Everything seemed to be going great! Until, Mr. Loneliness decided to arrive. Lately, I have been feeling pretty lonely even though I have roommates, coworkers, and student mates during classes, but it’s not the same. Everyone has a life of their own. Ever since I stopped socializing, I haven’t really kept in touch with many of my “friends.” I sometimes even wonder if this loneliness is depressing me? I got invited to a few parties tonight, but in true honesty, I didn’t even want to get out of bed. Yeahhh, crazy stuff huh? How you can feel lonely, yet when you’re invited to something, you decline?? I am going crazy over here. hahaha
But enough of my depressing story! The point I am trying to make is that, even though you feel like you have only so many options, you can make an option to balance yourself with all of the options. The key word is “balance”. Did you guys get that? B A L A N C E. They say too much of anything is not good, so don’t try to overload yourself with something. Have a little bit of everything. Except if you’re studying for a test or something. In that case you better be studying your butt off to do well! Just remember that education is important, but not everything.
Now that I have experienced both of the far ends, I’m going to try to work out my balance in life.
– a quick comment I want to make is that, make sure that you are hanging out with the right people though. I feel like maybe that’s why this is happening to me. I’m trying to stay away from the “bad” crowd who will encourage me, or influence me to do things that are not “right”. So, surround yourself with people that will bring out the best in you.
To conclude this lovely story full of advice, if you are going through a similar struggle, I just want you know that it is okay. We will go through rough times in life, but you just have to toughen up and keep on going and find a solution to the problem.